Excuse me?? Finding purpose in life after 50?
- “How do I know my purpose?”
- “What am I meant to do with my life?”
- “How can I change direction at 50 and not end up wrecking everything?”
- “Why can’t I remember why I came into the damn kitchen?”
1. Refusing to accept your age
But what I’m talking about here is that moment when blind panic sets in at the sight of who’s looking back at you in the bathroom mirror.
- Grab your phone to check your bank balance to see if funds will allow for a facelift and maybe a couple of squirts of Botox, or
- Remind yourself that all the glasses of water you didn’t drink yesterday have conspired to dehydrate your skin, so what do you expect??
And Elle Macpherson is 54.
Michelle Pfeiffer is 60.
Helen Mirren is 73.
Judi Dench is 84.
I could go on, but before yells break out of “yeah, but they’ve had work done…” let me say this:
They’ve all embraced their age and are just as busy building their careers and lives as they ever were.
Cosmetic procedures should enhance, not wallpaper over the cracks.
2. Accepting the ‘life after 50’ stereotype
Your journey so far has brought you to this point, now’s the time to capitalise on what life at 50 has taught you.
3. Seeing constraint instead of freedom
- Drink water (two litres is good a day, three is better)
- Exercise daily (I’m talking about just getting up and moving your body, not three hours in the gym – although that’s good too)
- Eat plenty of fruit and veg every day
- Keep alcohol and caffeine to a minimum
- Slow down and relax (meditation, getting a massage, sitting and doing nothing in the garden on a sunny day – it all helps)
- Learn to breathe deeply and mindfully (oxygen is good for us, I’m told)
4. Not listening to your instinct
- Shunts you into a tiny, anonymous space?
- Stifles the enormous value you bring?
- Perpetuates the ridiculous idea that women over a certain age are of no use?
5. Settling for the midlife status quo
When we operate in the real world we operate by real-world rules – and that means if you want to do something badly enough then someone will have to stop you first. And people will only take a break from their own neuroses to discourage you from time to time because your success highlights their failings.
Never settle for an average existence when you’re capable of living an outstanding life.
You deserve it, and so much more.